My last post needs one clarification for betrayed partners. It was about how addicts are accustomed to playing the victim role and staying stuck there, which feeds the addiction cycle. But what about the fact that betrayed wives ARE in fact victims? Is it bad for us to be the victim? I’m glad you asked. 🙂 If being dropped into the world of infidelity and betrayal has taught you anything, it’s taught you that our society is upside-down about many…
You’ll notice I like to share a lot of podcasts! Do you like listening to podcasts? While sex addiction treatment is a still-relatively-new thing, the few working in this field do a great job of disseminating information via books, conferences, and podcasts. Thank GOD! Here are the podcasts I like: The Betrayed, the Addicted and the Expert Sex Help with Carol the Coach APSATS Radio Restored 2 More Helping Couples Heal Find the links and a longer list here. What…
After discovering your partner has been sexually unfaithful and lying to you for years, you feel like you’ve fallen into a rabbit hole where nothing is as it once seemed, like Alice in Wonderland. There was a day when you both stood in front of all the important people in your life and pledged to forsake all others and be committed to each other until you die. You kept that pledge. You had no reason to believe your partner wasn’t….
I’m reading a few books, one of which is a book of 52 devotions written by Margaret Feinberg. The title is More Power to You — Declarations to Break Free From Fear & Take Back Your Life. She starts the book with a 90-second daily challenge wherein you read the daily declarations out loud. All of her declarations are based on who God says I am. And I believe every one of them with all my heart. I know these…
This Thanks For Sharing podcast on betrayal trauma is very good! While this podcast is largely about dating, Dr. Stan Tatkin verbalized what my heart has been trying to communicate for a while! I bet you’ll love it too! I’ll post dialogue below, but there’s some good truth here starting at about minute 26:30: Tatkin speaking to the faithful partner in couples who have lost trust due to betrayal when they ask “Are you committed to me? Can we even…