Resource Spotlight: Stuck?
Wow! This podcast episode by Helping Couples Heal is on point regarding feeling stuck! Marnie and Duane hit the nail on the head.
Addiction 101, Part 8: Parts and Dissociation
In Megyn Kelly’s memoir, she tells a story from her teen years of complaining to her dad one night in December as he sat by the Christmas tree. Her parents couldn’t afford her class ring, and she was upset and stormed off to bed. That was the last time she saw her dad because he had a lethal heart attack that night. Megyn was behaving as a typical adolescent – obsessed with self and peers. Teenagers don’t understand making financial…
Addiction 101, Part 4: How
As a single guy, my husband had a serious porn addiction (although we didn’t know to call it that in the 1990s). He had some sobriety under his belt when we started dating. He confessed his issues up front and we got counsel from wise people at our church who were confident in us moving toward marriage. Despite some mental health struggles in the early years of marriage, Phil didn’t “act out” with self-stimulation or porn. We were very careful…
The Stillness
As I wake up in the early morning darkness and lay quietly in the warmth of my bed, I notice the quiet all around me, the stillness of just me, alone, in a peaceful place. I’ve moved into a small apartment on our property. It has been very healing to be there alone and think, pray, and just be still with God. I have done quite a bit of healing through an ETT intensive (3-day session), and I no longer…
The Turtle Tribe
Hi Friends, Well it’s been several weeks back when I started a series on addiction. I fully intended to share several posts in this series in rapid succession – I was excited about it, too! So what happened? An adult child needed extra support. Work picked up. The holidays came. We took a very long road trip. It’s February. I’m only now beginning to breathe again after all the busyness. I had to take a break from the blog –…
Self-Care
Before betrayal, I had never heard of the term “self-care”. When I was asked about what I did for “self-care”, I didn’t have a clue. I was a momma, a wife, a daughter, a friend…my days were spent serving others (with love). My therapist and my coach said I needed to spend some time doing “self-care” just for me. So, for the first time in my life, I began to get my nails done, every month, along with a pedicure;…
Coming to Terms, Part 3 of 3
In the aftermath of sexual betrayal, it’s hard to understand or verbalize exactly what all this means. But you know your life will never be the same. You even wonder if life can be good…. This post is about coming to terms with what’s required to heal your marriage; which, is worth noting, is different than healing as an individual. As I’ve tried so desperately to make sense out of the insanity that IS sexual addiction, a great aid was…
How to Calm
I get it – the fear is REAL. We are dealing with serious consequences, devastating pain to the people we love the most, shame, public humiliation, being faced with possible divorce, job loss and more. Given the fact that our brains are in trauma-mode, how can we calm? I’ll never forget my first coach’s words: “Don’t let your circumstances make you doubt God’s nature.” God didn’t betray me, my husband did. 2 Timothy 4:17&18 “But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me… So I was rescued from the lion’s mouth. 18 The Lord will rescue me from every evil deed and bring me safely into his heavenly kingdom. To him be the glory forever and ever. Amen.” Her advice,…