It’s been a long time since I’ve written a post for you. Jane requested a post on 1, 2, 3…so here I am, sitting and writing about something I noticed in him, but did not notice in myself until I was asked about it. Most of you have read some of my posts and know that my marriage is in its 3rd decade. You know that I was blindsided in 2018 with a therapeutic disclosure wherein my “husband” shared all…
Great interview here with Sharon. So many takeaways! Dr. Barbara and Dr Sherri Keffer on Is Porn Cheating? “Christlike or Pornlike?” – this article is FIRE!
Friends, this series is now complete!! It would mean the world to me if you share it with recovery friends and those in ministry who want to learn more about sex addiction. I can’t believe it took me 12 months to get it “on paper” (that’s embarrassing)… Here is the complete series: Maturity Why Sex Addiction is Different What How Who, Why, and When Simply Sober Fantasy Parts and Dissociation Narcissism and Predators IA and RCs Control and OCD Deception…
As the old adage goes: How do you know if an addict is lying? If their mouth is moving. Addiction and lying are inseparable. More than anything, the vast web of lies and deceit her partner has spun for years is what leaves a betrayed partner immobilized and hopeless about rebuilding any kind of trust or future. Especially for couples from faith traditions, the ability the addict has to lie – often by omitting important truths – leaves the faithful…
Would you judge a middle-aged woman crying in the grocery store? Honestly I would. I would think she needed medication perhaps or she needed to go home and rest at a minimum. I cried in the grocery store. In the card isle, to be exact. Recently I decided to pick up a birthday card for my husband while at the store. Reading through all the cards made me feel sick and dissociated. I had to see too many “Happy Birthday…
In Megyn Kelly’s memoir, she tells a story from her teen years of complaining to her dad one night in December as he sat by the Christmas tree. Her parents couldn’t afford her class ring, and she was upset and stormed off to bed. That was the last time she saw her dad because he had a lethal heart attack that night. Megyn was behaving as a typical adolescent – obsessed with self and peers. Teenagers don’t understand making financial…
Below are two great videos from Eddie Capparucci!
Did you have a good marriage before Dday? I loved my marriage! Not every season was wonderful, but I can’t remember one day not being madly in love with my husband. (What three years of recovery work has taught me is this probably has more to do with my own disposition than my actual marriage, but I digress.) I spent several months of early recovery “just wanting to go back to how things were.” We all learn too soon that…
The highest compliment a betrayed partner can give to a professional in the sexual addiction or marriage counseling field is “they’re safe.” We’ve been blessed to work with some very safe (and smart) care takers. One thing that made our marriage therapist safe for me was that he let me ask all the questions I wanted – and no question was off limits. I wonder if you have asked yourself this question: Are all men doing this? “This” means cheating…