Before betrayal, I had never heard of the term “self-care”. When I was asked about what I did for “self-care”, I didn’t have a clue. I was a momma, a wife, a daughter, a friend…my days were spent serving others (with love).

My therapist and my coach said I needed to spend some time doing “self-care” just for me. So, for the first time in my life, I began to get my nails done, every month, along with a pedicure; for the first time in my life, I began to get a facial, every month; for the first time in my life, I began to get a massage, every few months. And in choosing these rituals, I began to see that I wasn’t just a momma, a wife, a daughter, a friend…I began to see that I was me, a woman deserving of self-care, a woman deserving of doing something just for me, a woman who was so much more than what betrayal told her she was. It was an eye-opening discovery.

If you’ve been told to spend some time taking care of you by choosing “self-care”, what does that mean to you, personally? What can you do to choose self-care when you get to a place of numbness, a place of disbelief, of pain, as you live out that roller coaster that is betrayal? Whatever you choose for your “self-care” ritual, know that you deserve it, that you are worth taking care of. Choose you.