Hi Friends, Well it’s been several weeks back when I started a series on addiction. I fully intended to share several posts in this series in rapid succession – I was excited about it, too! So what happened?

An adult child needed extra support. Work picked up. The holidays came. We took a very long road trip. It’s February. I’m only now beginning to breathe again after all the busyness. I had to take a break from the blog – even though I love it, even though it’s an outlet for me, and it’s good self care when I connect with other betrayed spouses.

I’ve learned that trauma has greatly reduced my capacity for everything! I think, move, and process slower, while handling much less than before Dday! I have come to accept my new pace. It’s embarrassing at times. I offend old friends by declining their invitations. I have to wait to do things that I love, like writing here.

I’m a turtle, it’s true. I move slow and withdraw into my shell for protection as needed – AND IT’S OK. It’s OK that I can’t get as much done. And what is getting done happens slowly. It’s OK that many things go unattended to. I’ve come to see that I am OK with how I do my life these days – even when those around me don’t like it.

Are you a turtle, too? Well, join the tribe! I bet there are several of us reading here together. I like your pace. It’s more like mine. I don’t care if you haven’t dusted your house in a year, if you ignore texts and emails, or if that paper pile has been setting there for so long that it’s a fixture in the room. Welcome to the tribe!

It’s so helpful to come across resources from professionals who get this reality, like Shannon at Southlake Christian Counseling.