Thanks to Melody for this seminal conversation. I pray the addiction recovery world starts to support partners in these marriages. Pathological – adjective Pathology implies a person’s inability to 1) Change or consistently sustain positive changes 2) Grow to any meaningful emotional or spiritual depth 3) Develop insight about how his behavior negatively effects others
I am so glad another partner friend introduced me to the work of Patrick Teahan! Along with Tim Fletcher’s YouTube videos, Teahan is in a superior class of professionals focusing on the issue of the lasting effects of childhood trauma. He is funny and extremely insightful. Below are the favorite Teahan videos my sister-friends and I have unearthed so far
(This video belongs to Seeking Integrity and Jon Taylor of White Pine Recovery. Taylor works with Dr. Ken Adams, a pioneer in the phere of mother-enmeshment. I’ve compiled a few clips of his recent video for this blog post. Many thanks to all for putting this material into the recovery community. Please check out their websites and ascribe them for this video content.) Please excuse my crude video tactics and the poor audio. I’ve recorded clips of this excellent video…
Counselor. And we have one! Thank you, Jesus, for coming to us and carrying our brokenness so that we might be reconciled to God and blameless in His sight! THIS is the good news we need. He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief. Like one from whom men hide their faces, He was despised, and we esteemed Him not. Surely He took on our infirmities and carried our sorrows Isaiah 53:3-4
In the 90’s I fell in love with a quirky movie called “Clifford” about a charming boy who leaves a wake of destruction en route to his place of bliss – an amusement park called Dinosaur World. He’s under the care of his uncle, whom Clifford has driven to temporary madness. My favorite part of the movie is when his uncle, after a series of disastrous losses that Clifford unleashes upon him, tries to have an instructive, corrective conversation with…
Discovery, disclosure, and polygraph are all terribly painful. However during that season, there can be hope for a better future. Also, we have a team of professionals on board to help us get to the other side. Often we’ve even been promised that if we make it through to the other side of disclosure, we’ll have a marriage far better than what we thought we had before Dday. Usually partners decide the new-and-improved relationship is worth the pain that accompanies…
S Heart and I look forward to featuring stories from other partners. Time spent with those who get it has made all the difference! I am almost 6 months in since I first found out about G’s affair (affairs). The memories of how he treated me during that early window of time are what still haunt me the most. Yes, the affair still really stings, but it’s how cruel and mean he was to me in the entire process of…
Hi Friends, I can’t believe I haven’t written since January! I think about you, our journeys, and the truths we share here often. I had a very busy Spring with work. Over the summer I got to teach some material that I love – not recovery/infidelity related. I enjoyed it tremendously. Fall is always busy for our family. Lots of hustle and bustle around here. But I’m glad to be back, and I want to tell you I have a…