As the old adage goes: How do you know if an addict is lying? If their mouth is moving. Addiction and lying are inseparable. More than anything, the vast web of lies and deceit her partner has spun for years is what leaves a betrayed partner immobilized and hopeless about rebuilding any kind of trust or future. Especially for couples from faith traditions, the ability the addict has to lie – often by omitting important truths – leaves the faithful…
Would you judge a middle-aged woman crying in the grocery store? Honestly I would. I would think she needed medication perhaps or she needed to go home and rest at a minimum. I cried in the grocery store. In the card isle, to be exact. Recently I decided to pick up a birthday card for my husband while at the store. Reading through all the cards made me feel sick and dissociated. I had to see too many “Happy Birthday…
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After reading the title of this post, you probably wanted to skip over it – BORING snoozer. Well this topic is anything BUT boring. Hang onto your hats, Sisters. Do you like mystery, thriller stories? One of the most popular genres of horror films is the who-dunnit shock thriller where, at the very end of the movie, you find out the bad guy was the person you least expected!! We find this entertaining because it’s so hard to believe. These…
One of the most awkward and painful experiences for a parter healing from betrayal trauma must be attending weddings. We see the groom pledging his undying love and commitment to the giddy, believing wife. “I will always be there for you. I will serve you. I will never tire of gazing into your eyes. Every morning I will make you coffee and every night I’ll let you cry on my shoulder.” It’s even more awkward when you’re trying to help…
Especially in the early days of recovery, I consumed an unbelievable amount of resources! Books, podcasts, online conferences, etc. Even in that vast sea of information, sometimes, years later, a random quote from a random podcast can sound in my head and answer a hundred questions. I was listening to a podcast from a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. One survivor said “I think when a person has been perpetrated against, a touch of that perpetrator energy can be inside…
In Megyn Kelly’s memoir, she tells a story from her teen years of complaining to her dad one night in December as he sat by the Christmas tree. Her parents couldn’t afford her class ring, and she was upset and stormed off to bed. That was the last time she saw her dad because he had a lethal heart attack that night. Megyn was behaving as a typical adolescent – obsessed with self and peers. Teenagers don’t understand making financial…
In one of my favorite books on addiction, Unbroken Brain, author Maia Szalavitz does a great job of laying out how the addicted brain is much like the adolescent brain. If you haven’t had the privilege of hanging out with a teenager recently, I’ll refresh your memory. They’re moody, generally oblivious about responsibilities or chores that need to be done. They’re easily offended, hopelessly self-oriented, grandiose, and thrill-seeking. Szalavitz invites us to think about who our high school class elected…
Below are two great videos from Eddie Capparucci!