It’s been a long time since I’ve written a post for you. Jane requested a post on 1, 2, 3…so here I am, sitting and writing about something I noticed in him, but did not notice in myself until I was asked about it. Most of you have read some of my posts and know that my marriage is in its 3rd decade. You know that I was blindsided in 2018 with a therapeutic disclosure wherein my “husband” shared all…
As I wake up in the early morning darkness and lay quietly in the warmth of my bed, I notice the quiet all around me, the stillness of just me, alone, in a peaceful place. I’ve moved into a small apartment on our property. It has been very healing to be there alone and think, pray, and just be still with God. I have done quite a bit of healing through an ETT intensive (3-day session), and I no longer…
Before betrayal, I had never heard of the term “self-care”. When I was asked about what I did for “self-care”, I didn’t have a clue. I was a momma, a wife, a daughter, a friend…my days were spent serving others (with love). My therapist and my coach said I needed to spend some time doing “self-care” just for me. So, for the first time in my life, I began to get my nails done, every month, along with a pedicure;…
I’m reading a few books, one of which is a book of 52 devotions written by Margaret Feinberg. The title is More Power to You — Declarations to Break Free From Fear & Take Back Your Life. She starts the book with a 90-second daily challenge wherein you read the daily declarations out loud. All of her declarations are based on who God says I am. And I believe every one of them with all my heart. I know these…
Marriage. What is it? Is it all rainbows and unicorns? Should we never show who we really are, what we really feel? Is our spouse supposed to be the “best friend”, the one we share our hopes and dreams with, the one who sees us in all our glory AND in all our messiness? Did we spend decades with someone whom we thought was that person only to find out that they weren’t that person at all? And now, now…
Where are you right now? In this journey through betrayal, we are all at different places and in different stages. Don’t feel like you are way behind in your growth compared to others. Let’s face it, we all started at the bottom. And no matter how far along we’ve gotten, guess what? Some days, we are right back there: at the bottom. It’s been two years since I sat through around 4-6 hours of a Therapeutic Disclosure in my therapist’s…