S Heart and I look forward to featuring stories from other partners. Time spent with those who get it has made all the difference! I am almost 6 months in since I first found out about G’s affair (affairs). The memories of how he treated me during that early window of time are what still haunt me the most. Yes, the affair still really stings, but it’s how cruel and mean he was to me in the entire process of…
I don’t know why in the fog and shock of the discovery of infidelity wives think about Christmas! My Dday was in April, but for some reason I asked “Did you look at p*rn in December?” It mattered to me. Christmas can be a haunting reminder of the years and decades that we were being actively deceived and hurt. Maybe in secret or maybe in the wide open for all to see. We can’t understand that our partner could enjoy…
Today is Halloween. Going through betrayal changes your emotional DNA. What other people call “scary” is child’s play for a betrayed wife. Conversely, simple things like a day at the beach or a commercial can scare the wits out of us – amiright? However, some things that most people find frightening and bizarre, we might understand. Hitchcock’s classic thriller would be the perfect example. Studied for decades, this horror flick is more than a cinematic masterpiece. Hitchcock is actually spot…
A lot of my struggle with coming to terms with my marriage after Dday is that I know what kind of relationship we had for almost 21 years before discovery. We did have a strange season in the early years of our marriage that didn’t include sexual acting out, but it did require quite a bit of counseling and healing. We put the work in and had a very good relationship for years. Many friends told me they envied the…
One of the main reasons I wanted to start a blog is because there are some unique facets to my betrayal story that I don’t hear much about. I wanted to provide a connection point for others dealing with some of the same details as me to let you know that you aren’t alone. Don’t get me wrong, the “sameness” of our stories makes us feel sane and gives us hope to journey on. When I hear a betrayed wife’s…